Ive posted on the relationships board before, in brief : together 14years, 19month old ds, i work 8-6 mon- thurs h works 6-6 fri-sun we've had lots of issues since ds arrived although looking back i think it probably started earlier, 2 weeks ago we had another major row (he left ds alone while he nipped to shop whilst i was working) since then we havent kissed, hugged or anything, we are barely talking literally all we talk about is how ds has been, when weve been close to splitting in past he has threatend to take ds & make me pay maintenance as i earn more (900 pcm more). Ive seen a solicitor who gave me good advice, im confident most he would get is 50/50 although im terrified i may have to go mon-thurs without seeing ds, i dont think its in ds benefit to be away from either of us for long periods im custody suggestion would be: mon am h picks up ds i collect ds tues pm (nusery) weds am h picks up ds thurs pm i pick up ds fri-sun ds with me but h can visit or call if he likes in evenings (he works 45min away so out by 515, he doesnt spend anytime with ds when hes in work whereas i get up every night with him & every morning ds usually up by 530) i doubt he would go for this but thats my thoughts, we rent & i will stay here until custody sorted with ds.
So how on earth do i woman up & talk to h about separating? Im TERRIFIED of losing ds, & that h will get nasty (verbal not physical) but i know i cant carry on like this, i feel physically sick & like im going to have a break down, but as we are not arguing at the min it seems easier to just keep going. Advice needed please
Thank you if you got this far & for reading
Help - how do i get up the courage to suggest we separate?
Justme1981 · 24/08/2018 09:55
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