Impact of new relationship

[FuzzyCarrots]

STBXH taking me to court for financial resolution. Two DCs under 10 he sees EOW. Currently in DN stage - could have applied for DA months ago but ex dragging heels on financial disclosure. Very dull state of affairs. I am divorcing him (uncontested) on grounds of unreasonable behaviour.

Am in very lovely new relationship which has legs, have been for quite some time.

My family haven't met new man, however keep telling me if my STBXH were to find out, any potential settlement would no longer be in my favour and am doing a disservice to my kids.

As far as I'm concerned my children are my priority. They are very separate to my divorce, and my children and my divorce are separate to my new partner.

I have little to no expectations of walking away from divorce with much, but have been advised STBXHs ridiculous heel dragging will not be looked upon kindly. He's been asked for over a year to provide certain information and just refuses to disclose.

Any advice would be appreciated.

There’s a question on Form E about whether you will be cohabiting. I expect, as the patriarchal law sees it, if you will be living with him then you won’t get as much as he will be “taking care of you”.

Thanks @Notbeingrobbed - not quite at the cohabitation stage just yet - perhaps if we are together this time next year I would consider. I was hugely betrayed and emotionally abused by STBXH, unwilling to put myself at risk again. Am happy as it is at the moment.

I’m glad you have that much confidence. I will never ever have anything to do with a man again.