Feel really alone starting divorce

[dangermousegoesswimming]

Separated 3 years with 3 young children. He doesn't know I've finally got the guts to go ahead.
I'm seeing a solicitor on Monday for a meeting.
My mum is with me on this and always has been but we are not 'close,close' and she'll be looking after the kids.
I get on with people at work but nobody I can talk to.
No real friends around and I just feel scared and alone.
Anyone else?

I think divorce on the whole is a pretty lonely process even when you’ve got a good support network in place. Well done for getting it started! 😀

I understand how lonely it can be and just wanted to say people understand and are here for you!

I am separated just a few weeks from my husband, we live far out from my home (well 80 miles) and support network - moved here to be near his job. Now I am here in the house alone.

All my friends and family are far away. Loneliness can be hard. Try to keep busy and do things that get your mind off things.

And well done for getting on with it.

I feel just the same. Sending hugs x

It’s horrible. I remember wishing a grown up would appear and tell me what to do! I have lovely friends but no one who’d been through divorce or had a clue and I did it myself without lawyers as we didn’t have children and sorted finances between us.

Once I’d started and filed the application it had a life of its own and it was easier doing the practical stuff than I’d feared. But no one says it’s easy and it’s not. You’ll get through it. There’s so much support online for free these days and your lawyer will guide you. You’re paying for their expertise so follow their advice.

Good luck. You’ll be fine. One step at a time.

I feel the same. I need to open the paperwork and begin but don’t know if I’ve got the strength. Even though I want a divorce, this process still feels like grief. I can function but I’ve got no energy for anything else. I wish you luck. Stay strong.