H doesn’t want anything from me financially

[BettyBo33]

H has said he doesn’t want anything from me. I’m leading the split but it’s due to his unreasonable behaviour. I own the house and a second property which provides my income on top of my pt job. He has his business. Legal advice I sought suggested that the courts would at least want me to give him the deposit on a house (3 bed for the children to stay) this was the minimum and I’m guessing if he instructs a solicitor they will push him to ask for more. If we agree but have it legally stamped the courts still have to agree don’t they? And they can decide if they think he should have more? My solicitor said he knows of only 1 case where the partner who didn’t want anything was allowed to do just that. Usually the courts and solicitors will push for a more 50:50 split.

Can anyone shed any light on what to do? Divorce online and agree everything but not have the security of it be legally binding? Or take the plunge divorce online and hope the courts don’t interfere? Last option to both instruct solicitors.

Someone mentioned on another thread where there is a very good reason and with a letter from the husband the judge gave his approval

I suppose if your ex has got a business and plenty coming in then why not

OK thanks mellie. I hadn’t seen that thread. I just don’t want the cost and hassle of solicitors if we can avoid it but at the same time I don’t want to regret that later on if he changed his mind I guess.

A district judge will have to approve the consent order. I have heard of cases were the order hasn’t been approved.

The start point will be 50/50 division. That includes everything - the house (you say you own), the rental property, pensions, card, savings etc. When you marry, finances are viewed as joint.

So with that in mind northernspirit does that mean whatever path we go down if we divorce a third party will have a say ultimately on the division? Or can we divorce quickly and cheaply online as I’ve read on here without a judge or court having their say on how we split assets etc?Sorry obviously not done this before! and I know if I ask a solicitor it’s in their favour to push their time!

You can start the divorce proceeds and have the nisi issued but an absolute wouldn’t be granted until a consent order (the finances) are agreed.

Get a solicitor for the finances, it will be worth the investment.

Maybe he's doing better than you think in his business?

The business isn’t doing great. He just knows he did wrong by me and doesn’t deserve anything. But I have to think of the kids so providing a deposit on a house is acceptable.

It's odd that he's behaved unreasonably in the marriage yet is being very reasonable now. It usually goes the other way.