Advice on whether to move

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Hello

I feel a bit out of my depth and my head is spinning at the moment. I am after a bit of advice please ..
My husband and I have recently decided to separate, we have 3 DC together (13,6,2) we own our house outright with a 50/50 share. I am wondering what the best course of action is for me and DC. They will stay with me and he will see them once/twice a week or so. After we decided to separate I immediately put our house on the market, thinking I need to be out of here and to start afresh away from what was meant to be our happy home. My husband is historically not trustworthy and is in charge of our finances, I know he is applying for large loans secretly and he is a risk taker/feels he is invincible (undiagnosed aspergers) it is like walking on egg shells. I am now wondering if it was a knee jerk reaction putting the house on the market and whether I am better to stay put. I have booked to see a solicitor but not for 2 weeks. I just worry about so much change for my children, especially my 6year old who is ASD. Any advice greatly received... thank you

So sorry to hear this. I have no advice except to say don't do ANYTHING without thinking it through first very carefully. I have been married 39 years and we are now divorcing. My mind has been racing, but I have spent a week thinking things through. My 3 girls are all in their 30's so I don't have your issues but just wanted to offer sympathy and say do not be bounced into any rash decisions and take every opportunity to talk to people such as financial advisers, your solicitor, dr, whatever for solid unbiased advice. Good luck x

Thank you for replying, it means a lot. I am going through the motions and I feel run ragged. I am seeing a solicitor next week. Somebody viewed the house this morning and seemed to like it, it's all moving very fast

No hurry to do anything. Maybe the DC don't need any more disruption on top of their parents separating. Take it off the market and look at it again in six months