Mediation question

[opheliatickle]

Is mediation really £500? My ex says he looked into it but I thought it was a bit less than that.

Also he’s off to the doctor to get antidepressants today, whereas I have been on them for a good few months. He says he thinks I have mental health issues because I have been so horrible to him, bearing in mind he refused to even hug me and slept in a separate bed throughout most of my pregnancy. He says I am really 'not very well'.

I know this is all a bit personal and there are two sides and all that, but I’m worried he’s going to turn accusation of emotional abuse back on me when I wasn’t even going to go down that road, although I did consider it for legal aid.

Seeing a solicitor soon but I feel so lost as don't want to end up in court being cross examined. This is all getting horrible and out of hand. All because he won't move out and wants a 50/50 settlement when our children are so young (5mo and 2yrs).

Mediation used to be about £190 each. Mediation is useful if you think you can probably reach an agreement with your ex. However if you feel things are going to be difficult it's probably a waste of time attending mediation.

I think every ex husband in the universe says that their wife is mentally unstable so don't worry about that.

What are your circumstances? Could you do a 50/50 split and still be housed? It's difficult to advise with out knowing the finances could you give a bit more info?

Mediation is expensive and, as I've said on others threads, only worth it if you are likely to reach an agreement that you will both stick to because it's not legally binding.

Also, some mediators are better than others so if you don't feel it's working just knock it in the head.

Same with solicitors. I spoke to a couple before finding one I was really happy with.