He called my parents and told them I died

[craxmum]

This is not a trolling post, this has actually happened.

I am in the middle of a high-conflict separation. We are in litigation about the children's residence, and the financial dispute is also ongoing. Ex has a new baby, our children are 4 and 2.

Yesterday was a stressful day, with some unpleasant letters exchanged.

Last night, he called my parents at 2 a.m. (their time zone) and told them that I had suddenly died. My parents live in another country and are not too fluent in English, so he had to repeat it a couple of times and my mum recorded some of it (I heard it, could not believe, it was not some sort of a metaphor - it was 'informing the relatives' tone). They know about our separation, but I save them from details.

Of course, my parents had 10-15 dreadful minutes before I finally woke up and picked up my phone. My mum had a hypertensive attack a couple of hours later (she's fine now).

Any ideas what to do or what it could be? Drugs/alcohol (he never took any before)? Psychotic incident? Just cold revenge?

Sorry no real advice op , but how awful for you and your parents :(

What an evil bastard!

Twatism.
Poor and simple. Make sure they block his number.

You need to inform your solicitors what he's done

And the police that's harassment.

That is horrendous!

Absolutely, inform your solicitor and I’d also call the police to log it, that sounds extremely threatening.

OMG your poor, poor parents. What an evil man.

I had the police come to my door to tell me my son had died. I don't have
the words to describe how I felt in that moment.

I’m sorry to hear this.

My ex husband did this too (in the evening of the day when I left him). He told them that I and my sons had been killed in a car crash.

He also phoned some of my friends and told them the same.

He was an arsehole.

Can't believe people do that it's unreal ! Least you divorced them ....

@endofthelinefinally.

The idea of someone saying that out of spite and malice is almost unbelievable. The lack of empathy in that man is terrifying.

Inform your solicitor. Especually since there is a recording! Keep that.

I would say henis a controlling nasty piece of work and did it to be cruel

Solicitor will keep a recording on the file, police weren't really interested as this was a private matter and there were no threats. They suggested it might have been a misunderstanding.

That's some pretty solid evidence to show why he sure as shit shouldn't share residence, let alone be the main carer. What an appalling way to behave.

You can sue for the distress that caused, although I am not sure how that would work with them. Being overseas. In your place I would just ask your solicitor to use it to your advantage if possible.

That is beyond spiteful! I can’t believe the police won’t even have a word with him, surely you can’t go around telling people their loved ones have died?!

Sorry you are going through this OP. I really hope it’s resolved soon. Make sure you stand up for yourself and your children, don’t be intimated by this bastard. Record and note down every single incident, no matter how small.