Moving his crap out

[FuzzyCarrots]

Having just written an AIBU thread I'm feeling enlightened.

STBXH walked out the door last year, didn't clear any of his stuff. According to other thread responses, I don't need his permission to move his crap out of the house if I give him notice of my intention.

There's a load of crap. In order to get my heart, head and home clean, tidy, organised for me and my kids I really want to do it. I also think my health will benefit from it massively as I'm feeling totally overwhelmed by it all currently.

Does anyone have any further advice or can I literally give him a fortnight to provide a list of what he wants moved, and where to? Anything not included is going in a skip (at the tip).

No.

You need to get all financial issues, including contents, resolved.

I'd probably check legally if you can do that first without his permission.
I would perhaps contact him and say it's been a year now it's obvious we're not getting back together so I think it'd be best for everyone if you took your stuff.
And if he don't then if your allowed to legally then either get rid of it or drop it off to a friend or family member of his.
Good luck

When I divorced I bought ExH out of the marital home. The consent order (which was a clear break order) had a bit in it that said he was waiving rights to anything that was in the property at the point it was signed. Do you have anything like that? Or could you tell him that that's what's going to happen and you will dispose of everything just to motivate him a bit?

My consent order also says that from the 23rd - Saturday! - all house contents belong to the person whose possession they are in - unless either one of us makes an application to the court by that date. Am a bit worried that ex is going to wait until Saturday to take a load of stuff away.

Thanks all - I see that legally it isn't quite so straightforward - nothing stops preparation though. DN granted so not long now. I'll start making lists...

@TheHeartOfTafiti - not quite there yet, but as we head towards financial resolution this may well be worth discussing. Having said that there is tonnes of his stuff that I just cannot live with. Got rid of the two hundred and fifty empty milk bottles and the thirty five old tyres in the garden though....

Why was he keeping 250 milk bottles and 35 tyres

@NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1 honestly? I have no idea. Corks too. Massive hoarder. All hidden.