Did you leave your husband for another person and if so do you regret it or it was a right decision

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Did you leave your husband for another person and if so do you regret it or it was a right decision

Yes. I left my marriage as I fell in love with someone else. It was the nail in the coffin really. Exh and I had been checked out for years and were only together for the kids in the end.
It was quite a relief to us both when I admitted falling for someone else. It was the catalyst we needed.
It was painful and at times I was scared. But my gut was right.

No I don't regret it. I am now happily married to said man and have been for 7 years. Me and exh are amicable and coparent our dc well. No regrets here, leaving my marriage was the right thing to do and we are both happier now. I am now married to someone much more compatitable and have learnt so much about myself through the whole experience.

Thank u it helps he so much and my fear

I left my first (physically, sexually and emotionally abusive) husband for my current husband. It was hard. We had no kids a d i have a food job so I was able to just leave. Now going through separation with current husband we have one child and i am utterly devastated, scared and not dealing with it very well.

If you don’t mind me asking what went wrong with ur current husband?
I have no kids I m clear till this is not sorted & I m don’t take decisions I cannot have kids

I think the risk of ending a relationship for another person is that you maybe jumping from frying pan to fire.

If your marriage is awful perhaps another person shows up and makes you realise what you are missing but equally the other person could be an unknown.

Figure out if your marriage is over first.Establish a clear separation and finalise all the endings of your marriage and then see if the new relationship suits.
If you have no children then the risk is just yours to take but I think most people grieve when a marriage ends - knowing it was not savagable makes it feel the right decision.

Hi lifebeing50
I won’t say my marriage is awful he has improved a lot since last 4 yrs but the problem is I’m in love with other person now I feel .
Me & my husband has hardly been together from past 4 yrs we r more like roommates no physical relationship at all . To be honest I never enjoyed or like having sex with my husband he is bit weird in that I feel he can do certain things cannot do certain things every time he touch my feet if he has to wash his hands Its kind weird I feel

I left my husband after I met DP. However nothing happened until we did split. I then lived alone for a year before DP moved in just to make sure I was making the right decision.

It was for me and now we are very happy and have our own DD now.

GrandTheftWalrus What would have happen if it was not ryt descion & u left ur husband too ?

I've been in this situation too. I decided to stay with my dh but I still wonder and did really love the other person. I kept thinking of the grass not being greener and the fallout rippling through my family situation 😔

I needed to leave my ex husband anyways. When I met DP it gave me a reason to do it.

If it hadn't worked out with DP then I'd have been fine.

Lots of my friends and family were pleased I'd finally left him

Yes, i ended my marriage when i was being chatted up by someone else, after a couple of years of unhappiness. It didnt last, but was great fun at the time, fantastic sex, and the catalyst i needed to change my life around.

Hi midlifeblues what made you come to descion how u decided? it’s so confusing & hard for me I just dunno what will be ryt ......

Did any one left there married without any issues in married but just u fall in love with another man & if yes what happen r u happy now ??

It's still a bit up in the air tbh. Money played a part plus deep down I knew I loved my dh and didn't want to leave him. Also the threat of divorce and losing my house etc

The problem for me is that you can't get to know the other person as you will burn your bridges with OH.

OM thought my dh was abusive but dh is trying so hard now

Best of luck midlifeblues even my dh is trying so hard but I never loved him like I love OM but on the other hand money is going to play part too

OM is still not settle he is finding his feet where DH is settle we have house no kids thou . When I m with OM I feel love will concour all but I know it’s going to be hard I m so confused I m thinking to do counselling which might help me to decide with some clarity I dunno

Go to counselling OP. I'm not exactly happy.

OM is bound to make you happy as you are not living together possibly? whereas dh seems boring and mundane as that is your life - hard to explain

I do more with dh now and we talk a lot more. I feel more confident in some ways.

Does your dh know about OM?

I left my Dh for 6 months so I have lived with OM for 6 months then I went back to DH due to family pressure & I got scared to be honest to loose house & money
After I came back to Dh I decided I will end OM but I was not able too
& it continued
What I m trying to gather is r u getting along fine with ur dh after leaving OM or have u left OM completely if yes how r u getting on now ?

Do u think it’s hope for dh coz I m in same situation

Yes dh found out & it was mess but then I lie saying it’s all over

You are lucky your OH is so forgiving tbh. I haven't seen OM for weeks. My dh is livid and constantly questions me about things. I try to ghost OM but it is very difficult.

If I left DH he would divorce me and has papers ready:(

We do get on but then DH flips. He managed to get access to my phone conversation.

It’s mess basically I dunno I m thinking to move out & start counselling & then will see how it goes both dh & om r happy to wait till I decide so I will take my time & make decision I might go & live wit om & ever see how it goes if it did not work I will go back to dh & end OM completely.

They both r v nice to me that’s the problem I don’t want to hurt any of them

R u not living ur dh just because of money why did u felt for someone at 1st place ?? Have u thought about that

& even afte staying with ur dh r u happy ???