I've been married 2.5 years with a beautiful 1 year old. My husband is 31 and so immature. I feel like he hates me. He constantly argues if I make a point (he has to be right) then when we do have an argument rings his mum and dad and involves them OR will say go get your mum and dad. I absolutely am sick and tired of him.
We (well he) decided that I shouldnt work after we have kids and thats what has happened. Yet he doesnt let me look at the finances. If I ask to keep track he says he won't and if I do ask again then our marriage will just be based on money (wtf does that mean?).
I've been to town a couple of time and there hasnt been any money on the card (for my daughters milk and nappies) I have to go again on the next day.
I have my own savings which I have saved for a rainy day and he said I was stingy and never used my own money. I paid for his visa and everything else even his underwear when he came here and the plane ticket. I only used his money after we've had a baby even when I wasnt working throughout my pregnancy because I was ill.
Alot of times in my pregnancy he used to make me cry alot and then sleep like nothing had happened. Everytime we fight he goes out and enjoys himself with his friends whereas I'm stuck with the baby (who I love).
I kicked him out last week and he came back after I felt sorry for him and my daughter. He told me hed come back at 9.30 and I had his dinner prepared and he came back at 12. Obviously I cried again and didnt want him to return but he came back.
He fought with me again 2 days later and its getting worse and worse. He called my family (mum dad and siblings) crazy because they apparently fight with everyone and refused to save any of their phone numbers.
He is incredibly petty and lies all the time to make me look bad. His parents keep ringing me when we've fought and ask me questions like well make your mind up do u want to stay or leave him? (its none of their business).
I just wish I had a mature husband who didnt tell everyone our business and didnt fight with me all the time. We currently live with my elderly parents and he doesnt have to pay any rent or anything. He's always but your family this and my family this and it hurts me. I treat his parents with respect and he gives mine the silent treatment even when they are so kind to him. I am sick and tired of being humiliated and everyone knowing everything about me. instead of supporting me he goes against me.
I fear living with him and thats the honest truth. I sacrificed so much of my life for him, helping him settle here and not once have I got any respect. When we argue he never apologises. Currently we are sleeping in separate rooms. He told me he's only in this marriage for the baby(how hurtful). But he never helps with her. He ignores me. I hate him so much. when my daughter laughs with me he'll give her a death stare so she stops laughing.
I'm so sick and tired of his lying aswell. He sometimes does things without thinking like threw a phone and it hit my stomach. When I called him up on it he makes things him up like I abused him and then calls me a liar when I tell him I didnt do it.
I honeslty have got myself into such a mess especially with a child involved. I dont want him in my life as he doesnt help me at all. The doctors told us we would not have children and he got angry at the hospital and aggressive and I told him everything would be find. I paid for his medication and now we have a beautiful girl. I have to tip toe around him constantly.
I dont know what to do. I know you can file for divorce online but I dont want him taking my daughter away from me. Even when she was born he abandoned me for an hour to speak to his mum for an hour whilst I was having my stitches done and my baby needed changing. Even when she was small he slammed a pillow so close to her and kicked a bin when I was breastfeeding (just because my mum did not call him mum and congratulate her on her granddaughter). I'm living with a psycho.