Frustrating!!!

[heavymetalstepmum]

So my partners ex wife of 2.5 years sometimes sends him messages or tags him in stuff that he would like on social media.
It drives me fucking nuts!!!
He has told her a few times, unless it’s to do with their daughter, leave me alone.
But she just doesn’t get the message!
He doesn’t want to be friends with her, he ignores her messages, but however, it still REALLY bothers me that she sends him shit sometimes.
What can I do??? I can’t stand this.
I hate the fact he has to deal with her on a weekly basis as it is, and it’s annoying for me as a new step parent that I need to even have her in our lives at all!

're the tagging on Facebook..you can change your settings so you have to authorise anything someone tags you in before it goes on your profile. Or set it that you can't be tagged in anything.

But as the mother of his child, it’s normal that he sees her when he does. In your new life as a step parent, how would it be possible for your partner’s child’s mother not to be on be scene?

Re the messages and tagging - it seems pretty harmless to me. If he wants to ignore it, he can. Unless she is harassing him, I don’t see that she is doing any harm?

You’re not a step parent. You’re a bit bonkers and treat your boyfriends daughter like a doll.

She’s the mother of your “step daughter”. Or is she just your handmaid? I think it’s normal for her to keep in touch with her child’s father as they share parenting. Either accept he has a daughter who has a mother or find another boyfriend!

You need to trust your partner. My ex partner was like you- resentful of my exh (dad to my 3 boys) and whilst i am never going to be involved again with my exh romantically we are both parents to the same children, I don't hate him, and im happy maintaining an arms length "friendship". My ex partner became ex because I couldn't bear his pettiness and belittling of the important role my exh had in my children's lives (by extension I respect him and am not interested in nitpicking over his behaviour. It's not perfect but I can deal with that as my children are secure and happy with mum and dad getting on well.)

You sound like a very difficult step mum. Your step daughters are not "yours", you have the privilege of being involved in their upbringing.