I need some emotional support

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My husband has decoded to separate from me and I am really struggling.

I am 50 with a 6 year old and work full time in a challenging job.

We've been together 9 years and had three miscarriages the year before getting pregnant with my daughter. Birth was traumatic and I am now menopausal which means I have had really awful mood swings and been difficult to live with.

I was also been diagnosed with fibromyalgia a year ago which means I am very fatigued a lot of the time.

I just need some hand holding as I am very emotional and struggling at the monent.

I am devastated at the loss of my relationship and marriage. Deep down I love my husband I have just not shown it for a long time and I am feeling terrible about the whole thing.

Husband tells me he isn't in a rush to leave but that the marriage is over. He works part time and doesn't have anywhere to go.

Please be gentle.

That's a lot to deal with. Any scope for counselling, either as a couple if your marriage might be salvageable, or just for you to help you get your head around it, if not?

We have been for counselling but we never make the changes 😔

That's so sad for you, but maybe counselling for you alone to help you accept that things have run their course and work out how to move on could be helpful. Do you have friends/family that you can confide in, or even just be around to help shore you up?

I do have people to speak to (his parents are amazing and cafe deeply about me). And my sister (who has her own troubles).

I don't really have any close friends I can talk to :(

I think counselling for just you would help too if you don’t have friends to talk to irl.

If you are full time with a ds and with fibromyalgia you must be finding life a challenge- you should be kinder to yourself . Your dh will also have contributed to how things are

Yes.

I am booked in for counselling.

I am making steps to improve my diet and do some fitness. I'm basically sedentary.

I am thinking hard about how to look after myself.