What to do when you're sad.

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I'm sad and resigned about my divorce. It's hit me after 9 months of living on my nerves and keeping busy. I can't stop crying, got good support, arranging some counselling. But I just feel sad. What could help?

Being with people. Trying to keep busy. I give my self tasks. Mainly decorating based at the moment. Just do what you feel you can do. Be kind to yourself and if you feel you are really struggling go and talk to your gp. You have got this far. You should be very proud of yourself.

Talk it through with your friends. Sometimes I think mine must never want to see me again as I repeat the same sad chat each time.
I resorted to the gin bottle last night and properly howled, feeling slightly less sad today. Xx

Maybe planning? Some nice treats for the future, general plans about how you can improve your lot re work, family, hobbies etc? I always find that having something to focus on further ahead than this week helps me.

But also just cry, wallow in it, let the tears flow in the bath, shower wherever. I read something yesterday which supports my belief that tears fulfil a biological function, they have some chemicals/hormones in them that makes you feel better. I always thought they were just carriers of evil taking all the sadness out of your body, but whatever the truth, I always feel better after a good cry, even if only until the next time.

Don't have any expectations of yourself, you are grieving and it will take as long as it takes to process this massive life change. Be kind to yourself, as you would if someone had died

Thanks for the lovely wise words and support everyone... you're right it is a kind of grief. I do feel purged today... a bit wrung out after a weekend of sobbing. Hopefully this is ultimately a good thing.

Have a good day all