Just wanting a bit of a handhold really and wondering if anyone had similar issues. Basically dh has mh issues which have been there throughout relationship but only just come to attention of mh services. I have been struggling with unpleasant / abusive behavior for years and some of my close friends have been aware this but now because nothing was documented in the past feel like I am not being believed. The health services in general have been useless at support. It has been all about him and although he is now not in the family home this is due to the intervention of child services and only after a lot of pushing on my part. I have been left feeling like my life just doesn’t matter to them except as a career and even when I rang asking for support when he had become physical I was asked to what degree and encouraged to stay in the home. I feel like I have been treated like an hysterical woman even though he is a lot bigger than me and I had told them he had physically assaulted me in the past. I have had to be outwardly strong and just get on with it meanwhile he has been taken in by a family member. I am working long hours but dread w-e as it means I may have to have contact with him and need to do so in order to progress divorce. This w-e due to pressure and stress I shouted at him on the phone and his ds took the phone off him and told me I was basically not helping as he was so fragile right now. He may be ill but I just feel like I am constantly being judged by them as a bad person despite having put up with years of really awful behavior as he has been so good at lying and putting on a front to other people.