STBX left last year for OW. We have two children. He has them EOW from Friday evening till Sunday evening. He generally sees them for a couple of hours once or twice a week.
I work PT and always used all my AL to cover school holidays. I was fine with this as this was the agreement when married. He would use a couple of weeks for any childcare l couldn't cover and for family day's out. The rest he'd use for himself to go away either seeing friends or to pursue his hobby - approx 2 weeks worth.
As soon as we seperated l implemented EOW and said he had to do school holiday cover too. He seemed a little shocked but we agreed EOW and l would cover 8 weeks of the school holdays and him 6 weeks.
As l am PT l originally said l'd have them on my day's off when it's his week to cover but now I'm thinking that maybe he should have to do the full week like l do.
I really don't know what to do. Is it fair on him that he should have to cover the full week like l do when it's my turn. Or should l still have the children on my days off.
He wasn't happy originally with the amount he had to cover as it meant he wouldnt get any time off to himself.... but l haven't ever had AL just for me - although as he pointed out l do get my days off when the children are in school. But l did answer and say that when we were together l was happy with that as that's what couple's do to facilitate each other i.e l worked PT to be with the children so he could have a well paid career and not have to "do" much childcare. But now he doesn't facilitate that.
So should he have to cover the full week or would it be fairer if he just does the day's l work and l have them the rest?