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Really struggling to let go off someone you love

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AJHXO · 17/04/2018 19:59

I had a baby girl 9 months ago with somebody i was with for 7 years, since i was 15 years old. Initially he was not happy i was pregnant in the slightest, it was not what he wanted. However, he soon got his head around it and stepped up and looked after me while i was pregnant, but since my little girl has been born he has changed. He will snap at me at the smallest thing and call me so many names, hes a very bad narcissist. We had a massive argument a few weeks ago of which his mum ended up getting involved and took him back and he now lives with her. I need to learn to let go of my feelings for him as hes just massively playing mind games and ive said if me and his daughter were enough he would of fighted for us then, which he didnt. Everybody keeps telling me hes horrible etc but i just cant stop loving him like that.

how can i learn to let go????

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GimmeFourCrunchies · 18/04/2018 18:56

You cut contact down to the bare minimum, only discuss your daughter. Get into the mind set that you are not together anymore and keep reminding yourself you will not be getting back together.

Do not rely on him for anything, even if you need some bread/milk, don't contact him. Walk to the shop and get it yourself.

Remove all of his belongings from your house and leave them with his mum.

I would also get out of the house and keep busy with your new baby. Do not sit in dwelling and thinking about him.

Most importantly - give yourself time to heal.

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