My ex partner is accusing me of using my kids as weapons.
I had good reason for throwing him out (verbally abusive and angry throughout and abusive at end) in addition to this he’s not entirely stable (has severe anxiety issues and had a suicidal nervous breakdown after I chucked him out) and convincingly believes the world owes him a living, which includes me.
So I’m finding it hard to separate my feelings for him from the best thing for my kid. How do you do it objectively?
I just want my dd to grow up safe and happy and be as amazing as I can help her to be.
He basically wants more contact from the 1 day a week he currently gets, and he wants his mum to get a day as well as she previously had dd 1 day a week. Which I stopped after, when he was suicidal, I asked her to get him some professional help, but she said “no. You have killed my son” Plus she was a complete cow. It was all my fault and I should take him back etc...
My mum basically said both of you get on with it, I’m only concerned about dgd. Which to my mind makes her an infinitely more suitable guardian than my ex mil.
Ergh, it’s a complete mess. My argument is about routine. He can continue seeing her every Sunday for as long as he wants, whereas more time now would change to less time in 6 months when she goes to school.
So am I guilty of using her as a weapon? If so, how do I separate it all out. How did you guys?