Abusive husband filed for divorce under my 'unreasonable behaviour'

[Mayita]

Hi, I will appreciate if some one has any idea or advice in what to do.

Separated from June las year. I have a non molestation order against husband, and currently we are in court over occupation order.

Initially he made a petition last year arguing that there were 2 years separation but that did not go through.

And now he amended the petition stating unreasonable behaviour as a reason.

I certainly cannot accept that and I believe a cross petition will have more chances to succeed as is he he is trying to do me wrong in every way possible using all sort of lies, while I have proof of the abuse police reports, non molestation order, and occupation order.

It is me and my daughter in the family home under the sole name of my husband. he is just reluctant to agree into something, does nto want to talk for the best of our daughter, he just want to do things on his way, he says. he does not care a bit for his daughter, wants to come back at the property and wants me and my daughter to go on emergency accommodation.. he thinks that is all easy. he says i will have to leave anyway as he is not to pay the mortgage.
any advice around, someone went into similar thing.
I will need to ask if i need to pay to make a divorce petition myself under the real reasons that are because his behaviour.

Thanks!

If you want to be divorced I would go with it, only the judge gets to see the reason.

It doesn’t really matter what the reasons are. The reason makes no difference to the financial settlement anyway so if you want to be divorced from him I would just sign the petition and let it proceed. Anything else will just be expensive both in terms of time and money and achieves nothing. The reasons for divorce are only seen by the judge anyway.

While it's true that only the judge gets to see the reason, I would not let his statement stand. You have the right to reply to it - be very clear and unemotional and state everything that you have here. That won't cost you anything.

Thank you for your messages. I am and have been always the person that gives the other side of my face for him to keep making wrong to me. and I keep doing right to him and because knowing I could have done this divorce under his unreasonable behaviour, I tried to agree and talk of what is what he wants, he does not want to talk, but he suspiciously has been responding well on seeing his daughter, and we have been talking better which gave me signs that we could have found agreements on what is about the divorce and the whole separation for the best interest of my daughter. he kept saying, yes we have to talk but never made time, when suddently this amended divorce comes out of the blue turning the things on me so cynically. by my own dignity of what I went through the emotional and physical abuse, he always trying to make me appear as the crazy one, and all that tried for him to get close to his daughter, even though he does not want to provide any maintenance. it seems he only wants us homeless. I just cannot accept that. we could have agreed as I asked. we could have had divorced long time ago already. I am not upset it makes rather so sad for what he is able to be.

I have a non mol too. I am finally divorced.

My husband, after years of infidelity, left me finally for another woman. He petitioned me after I didn't want him to return to the new family home, after a year of separation. He petitioned me for adultery when I finally found a new man.

Decided to accept it. The courts take a no blame stance and it makes zero difference to any financial settlement. Let him win his little battle. You can win the war. Fight the stuff that matters and save your money on lawyer's fees. Any judge will see through his behaviour.