Exdh and I have been divorced for 6 years. He is remarried, and 3 years ago he moved 120 miles away from where we lived together. The arrangement was that he would pick the kids up on a Friday after school, and bring them back on a Monday before school. It worked fine.
The kids and I moved in July last year, we are now 62 miles away from him. He was utterly vile about us moving, said I was unsettling them, emailed me incessantly, threatened me with legal action etc. At the time, I did everything I could to try and appease him, but basically to get him off my back. One of the arrangements we made was that I would meet him halfway on a Friday after school. So I finish work at 3, I drive the kids to his place of work which is conveniently halfway between where he lives and where I live. It’s a 2.5 hour round trip for me because of the Friday traffic.
He is quite a difficult character, he can’t stand me, and things can be tough. He does odd things just to put me out, for example last Monday he waited at a roundabout 400 yards from the house at 7.30am rather than bring them to the door. Just to be awkward.
Anyway, tomorrow is the first week of the Easter hols, and as we are both off work, I’ve suggested he come and collect them, and he is refusing to. I also suggested that as I am off work a week on Monday, but he’s at work, I would go and collect them from Leicester rather than him bringing them home.
Again, he’s refusing.
So what I’m asking is, is it common to meet halfway? Do lots of people do it?