Too hard to start again with someone else?

[Natalies85]

My husband left me just after Christmas and we are currently divorcing. It’s as amicable as can we expected, we are splitting custody of my little girl and I have bought him out of our house as a financial settlement. I do not love him anymore and don’t want to get back together. But I feel devastated about the family being broken up and can’t imagine dating and being with anybody else. I’m in my early 30s and genuinely feel that I’ll be alone forever - my husband knew me better than anyone and in the end couldn’t bear to live with me despite the fact I carried his child and financially supported him. So what’s the likelihood of meeting someone else who’ll want me? My friends and family have been surprised by how strong I’ve been but behind closed doors I feel alone and unloveable. Does anyone else feel like this?

you might want to move this to relationships. you'll get much more help there,
and the only answer is time I am afraid x

Give yourself time and build a life for yourself and your DD. Took me 4 years.

Oh of course you will be wanted, desired and loved again. You are young , and have your whole life ahead of you. It's quite normal to be having the feelings you are. We all do. But please take heart and be kind and patient with yourself. All will be well in the end .

You absolutely will want to date etc and people will want to date you. I’ve been there. I’m now nearly 4 years into new relationship.

It is still very early for you. Loads of people go onto have other relationships. I don't out of choice, it would not work with my life and my dd. But I am very much in the minority of divorced people I know!

Op I’m in almost a carbon copy of your situation, except I’m mid forties and a bloke. I’ve signed op for a bit of OLD but tbh it’s far too soon, we split almost the same time as you and I’m still reeling with the shock of it all. FWIW I was about your age when I met my ex. I’d come through a really painful breakup and felt like I’d never meet anyone again, but did, less than 6 months later. We had 12 years together and a beautiful son and although I’m struggling with the pain of splitting right now, knowing that I met someone when I thought I would be on the scrap heap gives me strength for the future. You’re still very young and I’m sure you’ll find someone you click with.

We split last June after 20 years together would have been 15 years married the next day.

I can't imagine being with anyone else and have no desire to be. I just can't see how it would fit into mine and my boys lives.

They are with me 24/7 except for alternate weekends when they go to their dad's and OW so l don't have a lot of time to dedicate to anything new. The boys have been through enough upheaval anyway