stuck!!

[SomeoneElse83]

I have got myself in a bit of a pickle and can't find a solution. I have two lovely children and a husband who I met abroad. We have been through a lot of moving around and paperwork in order to get us both able to live in the same country legally. After all this we have realised we don't actually get along, we have nothing in common and don't like spending time together. The kids are 2 and 5 so it would clearly affect them if we were to separate, not to mention the risk of him being deported if we aren't together as in his sponsor in the uk. I can't seem to find a way to keep everyone's happy and the kids in contact with their dad. He's from a very poor country with very little jobs so if he was to move back there it's very likely he wouldn't be able to support us financially, nor would he afford the flights over to visit. I never want my kids to be without their dad and I wouldn't want him to be without them either.

And a completely different issue, I'm hopelessly in love with my first love! We see each other a fair bit, have always been in contact through each of the trials in our lives, and recently we've become quite close again. My thoughts are getting clouded by the possibility of us getting back together and I can't think clearly about the disastrous situation with my husband. I can't see a way out of this. Please don't judge or put me down about this, I can do that all on my own. Just some honest advice would be amazing.