Ok so really scary time for me. I have been married for nearly 14 years and together for 20.
The last 7 years or so have been difficult since I was accused of having an affair (I wasn't). Tried marriage guidance and solo counselling but three years ago he decided he was going to leave. Told older kids (@ time 24 and 21) and younger ones (@ time 8 and 6). I took off my wedding ring because of how much he had hurt younger ones. Since then he has slept on sofa. He didn't leave!
Anyway, I have been looking to rent somewhere on my own. I have now got somewhere and I'm all signed and have keys etc. Getting white goods delivered and getting carpets laid.
Now having a panic about whether the younger kids (now 11 and 9) will want to come with me. It's a smaller house, with a smaller garden. Neither of them deal with change much. They were too small to remember when we first moved house.
I'm bricking it about telling their dad who seems to think all is fine though he still sleeps on sofa and we don't have physical contact. I'm bricking it about telling the older kids (step children) and now about the younger ones not wanting to come with me.
How do I start the conversation with any of them? Please help me someone :'(