This question has probably been asked many times before.
In a nutshell: 17 years of marriage, three boys aged 14, 12 and 8. DH had an affair 5 years ago when DS3 was 2 years old. As soon as I found out, he dropped her. I forgave him after initially wanting to end it (at least I tried v. hard to, for the sake of the children, in truth, I stopped loving him). Counselling - didn't really help. Then I began an affair in September with someone I'd gone to university with (I also met DH at university but they don't know each other). He approached me out of the blue and it escalated extremely quickly. I basically fell head over proverbial heels. His wife found out and they are separating. Then I told DH. I told him I wanted to end it and his reaction was to make a cup of tea. Anyway, so we are ending it. We haven't told the children yet. What on earth do we tell them? I have absolutely no idea where to start. Every time I think about it I get upset. We're hoping to tell them at the start of the school holidays. Any advice, much, much appreciated. I think my description belies the emotional battering that has got everyone involved this far!