Legal divorce/separation questions - what do I need to know?

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I have another post on the relationships thread - husband of 22 years seems to be getting ready to leave (though he hasn't told me that...)
This afternoon between 3 and 5 I have the one-off opportunity to ask a legal advisor all the questions I want re family/ divorce for free - what mustn't I forget?
I guess the obvious ones are:
Divorce/ legal separation - what is the difference?
What are grounds for divorce and how should I reply?
We have 4 children, 2 of them under 16 - where do I stand with maintenance payments?
He currently pays the rent and he is lead name in the rental contract - where does that leave me?
We have some bills outstanding - how do we stand with those?
I spent time not working and looking after the children - he will (I think) hold the bills he paid then against me - where do I stand?
We are both currently broke with no savings - what happens with ongoing bills that are currently in his name?
I also spent a large amount of money (more than 6 figures) in various payments including paying off a CCJ he had when we met which was preventing us getting a mortgage, deposits on houses (I paid the initial 30k deposit on our first house), cash payments for new kitchens and bathrooms, furniture, rent and bills for 12 months in 2015, moving a family of 6 plus pets and furniture to and from Canada etc etc.
We have 2 children at university, and we're both supporting them.
What haven't I thought of?
Thank you

Grounds for divorce can be:

1 Unreasonable behavior: most common and easily proved if not strongly contested, it's subjective therefore what you think matters, combined with common sense definition of unreasonable

1. Adultery - If denied you have to prove penetration (so my solicitor advised me so I went for 1 above)

1. 2 years separation if spouse consents to divorce

1. 5 years separation if spouse doesn't consent to divorce

I spent time not working and looking after the children - he will (I think) hold the bills he paid then against me - where do I stand?

He can shove them in his darkest place! Luckily not held against the stay at home parent

Hi I'm getting divorced after 25 years of marriage. I have 3 children which two have gone to live with their dad. The house is on the market and when sold it will go to court for splitting the equity. My question is would my husband get a bigger percentage with him having two children with him? His earnings at 3 times mine? How will the courts deal with this as there is always the possibility of the two children wanting to come back to live with me. Thanks in advance.

@Meme48

Hi I'm getting divorced after 25 years of marriage. I have 3 children which two have gone to live with their dad. The house is on the market and when sold it will go to court for splitting the equity. My question is would my husband get a bigger percentage with him having two children with him? His earnings at 3 times mine? How will the courts deal with this as there is always the possibility of the two children wanting to come back to live with me. Thanks in advance.

Ideally ask your solicitor or start a thread of your own.

There isn’t enough info for anyone to give you a steer. If you do post provide details of children’s ages, salaries, savings, pension, debt and equity. Some indication of local house prices would help.