Verbal / domestic abuse & custody

[Sweetnature]

Will verbal / domestic abuse towards mother by father play a role in determining custody arrangements?

I read somewhere this is not the case which I don’t understand as it has such a big impact on children plus there is a risk the child will be subject to this too and will need to be protected? Undertand benefit of some sort of relationship with father.

Am trying to help someone. Any information & examples please let me know. Thank you so much.

It depends what can be proven,and even then it's unlikely to be no contact. She could push for supervised only or no overnights. Certain circumstances can affect outcome like breastfed baby or older child that does not want contact. No one can predict how it will go.
Sadly the courts don't see abuse towards the mother as a sign that he will abuse the children too. The view is that the children (BULLSHIT) have a right to a relationship with their father.

Some people can be better parents separately than (in a toxic relationship)together and actually coparent together amicably but that's quite rare.

Thank so much.

It’s unbelievable because it will often be the case that the mother will have protected the children by letting the abuser abuse her and not her children. Something you cannot prove unless you won’t do it - which you’d never do.

It’s a system that keeps mothers with their abusers in fear of it happening to their children when she is not there.

Tell your friend to contact Women's aid and get a bad ass lawyer if financially possible.

Odds are if no convictions or the children being old enough to have a view,he will get some form of contact.

No convictions yet.

Thanks for your advice!

My only option was moving away to let distance limit the contact and hopefully time and distance will cause him to be less bothered. He does covertly emotional abuse my 8 year old, guilt trips her and crys tears etc.

Im protecting her as the courts would definitely give contact and even joint custody as i didnt really involve the police. Ive talked to womens aid but i have no trust in the system and in the courts.

Im moving at the moment well waiting for my house to complete anyway.

I cant wait till he no longer knows our address and when im no longer looking over my shoulder. Had a year of being abused, stalked, door kicked in and crying on the doorstep to be let in to cuddle the kids.

Sorry not advice as such but talk to womens aid and do the freedom programme if you can and look into parallel parenting not co parenting.