Will I always feel like this?

[BeauMirchoff]

Recently split up from an emotionally abusive, lying, sorry excuse for a man and I'm sitting here on a Saturday afternoon feeling hopeless and frustrated. This is my life now. I feel like I'll never meet anyone new... like I have nothing to offer to anyone and who on earth would want to be with me when there are so many amazing, interesting and beautiful women out there...
Plus I have 2dc and a full time job... I'm bound to be alone forever, aren't I

Right
Change your focus from needing a relationship to loving the string independent person you are.

Life’s short enjoy this free time you are having

You have to live yourself before anyone else can

Start healthy eating even if your not overweight it boosts health
Get plenty sleep
Exercise
Hobbies
Make new friends
Take kids to new places
Volunteer

Read
Watch crappy tv

So when you do meet the one you will know yourself better and know what you deserve and make the wisest relationship choice

I was like you aged 33 I had been in a relationship 16 years with an alcoholic I had 2 DD 2 and 6 I left him I didn’t know how to be alone and sadly took the first man who wa interested in me into my life
He was a cheat a control freak gave me depression

So when after 9 years I left him I was aged 42 with another child so I had 2 DD 15,11,6 then and I exercised socialised and got confident and dated lots foeernet guys and didn’t just settle
I meet my now husband 7 months after I left my ex and he’s 8 years younger

Life’s only lonely if you are needy
I think you should live first show those children what a strong happy single mummy is capable of :)

You've had a massive escape - you should be deliriously happy!

I love meme’s post.

Thanks NC4💕

No, you won’t always feel like this, you will feel fantastic and strong and greatful that you left.

But first you have to take a moment to re group. Any relationship is time consuming and now you are single you have time on you hands, what a brilliant commodity. I know you have kids but if they are young you will have some time in the evening, if older you can get and do things without a babysitter.

How about meeting some new people? (Charity volunteering, new club or hobbie).

You won’t be alone, it will just take some time to get you into a place where you’re ready to get out there and feel more positive is all.

Gosh... LOW POINT.
You are right. I should stop being needy and focus on the gift of time that I have been given. And freedom.
And I should be deliriously happy and I think I will be, once I have cleared all the debt my ex left me with...

Beau - don’t think anyone meant to suggest needy at all. Take some time and acknowledge things are going to feel hard for a bit. But you will come out the other side.

It will just take a while, that's all. You will be okay. Then better than okay. Things don't stay the same, even if it feels like they will. Nothing wrong with a bit of a wallow now and then, though. Take your time and don't beat yourself up for it.

Hi! I know I’m a bit late here. I am currently apart from DH. Recently married (last month) and divorce is looking more and more likely. I’m fine being on my own. I could start again but why would I? I genuinely thought marriage would help solidify our relationship inspite of my infertility but it hasn’t. And if I start again it would only be to disappoint the next person. I think you have so much to offer someone new but what’s the rush. Your a mum and that’s amazing! You have two beautiful children and I’m not saying that means you should be happy all of the time or that things don’t get hard because I know they do and by God I know what debt can do to someone but in my experience, once all of that is sorted out you won’t think about that but you will always gave the memories with your kids. Don’t be too hard on your self for feeling a bit run down but your ex sounds like he was a bit of a hadfull -mine is not and I still feel I am forever doing his washing, picking up after him, etc. Enjoy the slack, peace, quiet and the knowledge that one day this will all be a tiny spec in the rear view mirror and you will find that special person and you will wonder what you were ever worrying about. Sometimes you have to crack and egg to make an omelette. Very best of luck to you x