Advice please ladies.
My husband and I have been married for 12 years and recently separated. I think the wedding rings have been off for about 7 weeks now.
We have 3 children together and rent our home. He is the breadwinner and I stay home to care for our children, the youngest of which had just turned two.
We've been in this house for about 5 years. I love it here, and it's me who's decorated, tended the garden, bought every stick of furniture (with my own money which came from a small inheritance and with some crafts which I sell) and chose every curtain. My husband is a good man and has done more than his share though by bringing in the money that's paid the bills and kept a roof over our heads.
So my concern now is who should leave. He doesn't want to, I think he's still hoping we will reunite and naturally I don't want to leave either. I don't want our children to lose the house they think of as home.
As far as I'm aware, if he leaves and removes his name from the tenancy I will probably lose the house anyway because they will test me for affordability. And as I'll probably be on benefits I won't be allowed a house this big.
So where will I end up? What will I be entitled to? I know I need to get myself a job sorted out when my smallest child starts nursery at 3, but how do we get housed?
The ideal outcome would be if he'd leave and not remove his name from the tenancy, but he's clinging on for dear life. What do I do?
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