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What happens after I send request for decree nisi?

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Blushingm · 18/02/2018 10:04

I've sent it all back to court but I don't know what happens next

Exdh and I went to mediation but he would not compromise on anything

He works ft and now lives with his parents

I'm a student nurse, I live in the former marital home with 2 dc and I work the odd shift as a health care assistant inbetween studying and placement

Ex pays the amount given by cma and that's it. I'm currently pay (with help from family) all bills, the mortgage and the joint dmp. This has been for 2 years now

Before becoming a student (which he says I tricked him into allowing me to go) I worked part time - 30 hrs after dc1 and it to 17 after dc2.

I'm wondering what would be fair? At mediation I asked for help with mortgage until 6 months after I qualify as that would give me the evidence etc to get a mortgage on my own. With the dmp most debts are credit cards in my name but he was 2nd card holder. It's about £30k which is about as much equity in the house right now.

I just want to know what might happen next. Ex thinks he should pay cma payment and that's it

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Blushingm · 22/02/2018 09:27

We were together 18 years dc1 is 16 and dc 2 is 11. I went part time due to childcare costs and severe pnd

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Blushingm · 22/02/2018 09:32

He was only physical once - the day he left he shoved me and then punched a hole in the wall but he was financially mean - such as saying he had no money for diesel for my car but he did really or saying he'd got my mot done (he's an mot tester) but put it off for months so I got fined. He'd sulk if I did something he didn't like it bring something up weeks later having a go at me

He would also run to his parents and tell them EVERYTHING that went on between us including in bed and then thing it was ok to quiz me

When I started college his parents didn't like it I should look after my kids, my husband and if I had time have a nice little job! They said I was nothing and as far as they were concerned I didn't exist - he let them do this

His father hit my son - I found out weeks later - my ex did nothing about it and thought his dad had done nothing wrong

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WitchesHatRim · 22/02/2018 09:40

As bad as his behaviour has been it has no impact on any settlement.

You need legal advice about your settlement.

He will need to be able to house himself and unless he is a high earner he won't be expected to pay for and maintain 2 properties.

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