She wants to split up joint mortgage with kids can I just buy her out?

[Runnerman]

My partner has recently said she wants to split. We own the house jointly with a mortgage and have two kids who I adoŕe. I think I can afford to raise half the equity to give her. I would at least want the kids 50/50. She is just pt and so I'm not sure what's she going to do. I still want what's best for her but I want to keep the house for me and the stability of the kids. Any considerations? Could she stop me somehow?

Good luck OP.

Mesher orders are rare these days (15%) as a clean break is preferred. You can start by making her an offer and see what she says. Get legal advice first though as everybody's circumstances are different.

This is why mumsnet is bonkers - meng get slagged off for only having their kids EOW, then slagged of for wanting 50/50!

Why shouldn't he stay in the house, She wants to sell and split which gives her the same amount of money as him buying her out of 50%!

They get slagged off when they suddenly magically pull flexible hours and WFH out of their arses when the separation happens. When if they'd pulled their finger out earlier, there might not be a separation in the first place.

They get slagged off when they suddenly magically pull flexible hours and WFH out of their arses when the separation happens. When if they'd pulled their finger out earlier, there might not be a separation in the first place.

This. That's why OP is getting the scepticism about his newfound "I can work from home, start late..." attitude.

And we know this guys working hours contributed to the split how?

Or are we just working on an assumption?

Perhaps he's always had that flexibility. No one know what really goes on in a marriage, including the OP here it would seem. And I'm not saying that some men don't deserve a bad press (my exH in particular) but not every guy is responsible for the breakdown of a family, or wants to walk away from the responsibility of their children. The men bashing here doesn't help to create a better environment for anyone.

Perhaps he's always had that flexibility. No one know what really goes on in a marriage, including the OP here it would seem. And I'm not saying that some men don't deserve a bad press (my exH in particular) but not every guy is responsible for the breakdown of a family, or wants to walk away from the responsibility of their children. The men bashing here doesn't help to create a better environment for anyone.

But clearly he didn't USE that flexibility until now. So one or two posters out of however many have picked up in that. That's not "men bashing"; That's criticism of an individual.

Why would he have needed to use it if his DP was at home and worked PT? Clearly that was their arrangement. If has had to exercise that flexibility now because of a change in circumstances, that isn't any different than a mother having to work more. Life changes and he is responding to that. It may not have caused the original problem.

But he says that now they're splitting, he wants to see the kids as much as possible. Why didn't he want that before?

Battleax- I hope diy. We are both friends and I hope we would be fair to each other.

Funny thing to say when you are clearly intent on screwing her over.