I'm really in need of some advice or words of encouragement to get through what is proving to be a difficult time.
I've talked with my husband about having a separation due to his lies about money - spending hundreds of pounds every month for at least the last year. This is not the first time he's done this and, although he is trying to put things right now, we have been here before and it's still happening.
On the one hand, he is very sorry and is putting things right, but on the other hand he justifies what he's doing and he wasn't particular forthcoming with the truth.
I've said about a trial separation that will involve me going to stay with family and eventually getting a flat to live in a new area, while he stays on at his old job.
But....he is using everything he can to resist the separation....
He's threatened to take the children to his parents and that once they hear about what's going on, they'll support him to have them at their house...he tells me I'm not a very strong wife and that I should be able to stick together as a family and see through this 'tough' time.
That I should be able to trust him, 'just wait til my parents hear about this' (they are strict christians).
He says that although he was spending money, (and said he has a mild addiction), at least it wasnt on drugs or alcohol, etc, etc.
He is really getting me down with his behaviour and I cant stop crying each day.
On the one hand, he's sorry but cant see the bigger picture of what he's done...We had dreams to buy a house, to go on holiday together, etc, but all the money we've had he's been blowing it in secret on his hobby and software and bets.
I plan to move out but I have to stay in my job a few more months, but as time goes on, I'm finding this very hard to do as my emotional well-being is starting to suffer, I feel.
If anyone has any advice about how I can manage in this situation for the time being, or any suggestions about what I can do for now or can relate, I'd love to hear from you.
Struggling to Cope - Wanting a separation and getting a tough time emotionally from husband
dolphin198181 · 08/02/2018 10:37
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