Going to court

[RyVeeta]

Going to court soon. I have asked for two thirds because I have to house adult dc with disabilities. He wants half. He has not disclosed all his assets on his form E. This is the third time he's lied. He has claimed I stole from him despite evidence to the contrary. He will hobble into court on crutches that he doesn't need claiming he is too disabled to be without this that and the other, despite the fact that he gets sheltered housing. I'm scared the judge is going to feel sorry for him and that the dc and I will end up with nothing. He has also left me with all the debts. So out of my share I will have to pay fees and debts first. I cannot see under the circumstances that two thirds is unreasonable. He is diagnosed BPD/Narcissist and therefore doesn't see that it is reasonable, only that it is a battle to be won at all costs. Very distressed today.

In my opinion any man who doesn't put his child first is not a man at all. Try and gather evidence to prove there is nothing wrong with him etc before the court date, and tell the court about the debt as well, he should have to pay half! Hope everything turns out ok for you and little one

Thank you StarlaX. DC are adults but with disabilities and unfortunately mental health problems created by him. They will probably be living with me for at least the next ten years.

O my im so so sorry. I'm sure my husband is diagnosed NPD, he certainly doesnt put the children first either!! Whose name is the debt in? Can your solicitor ask for his medical notes? or at least get conformation from his dr regarding his medical situation?

Unfortunately they're all in my name. He didn't like banks, didn't like dealing with money, etc. He's a clever wee soul. I coped for over 20 years being as my dd puts it; the adult in the house. He didn't cook, clean, do childcare, drive, do school runs, school plays, school concerts, parents evenings once they hit high school. He didn't do housework, washing, cleaning. He didn't work. He was looked after and lived the easy life for years. His own children won't have anything to do with him.