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bubblesbubble · 29/01/2018 19:27

After divorce who has to do the pick up and drop offs, legally?
Is it split 50/50, I.e one of us will drop off and the other pick up?
Or is it the NRP that has to do all of the pick ups and drop offs?
The distance between houses is not huge. No one has 'moved away'. Also do we only have to pick up/drop off from each other's houses or do we have to pick up from other family members? Ex often wants me to pick up and drop off from the grandparents (who are very hostile).

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Whatiwishfor · 29/01/2018 21:31

I'm pretty sure there's no legal answer. But try and keep it consistent eg maybe you always drop off and he always collects.

Yettilegs11 · 06/02/2018 17:00

imeet My ex at a neutral place for pick ups and drop offs

egginacup · 06/02/2018 17:04

My ex does the pick up/ drop off from my house. To me this makes sense as they live here most of the time, this is their home and he is the one who moved away. I know others who do it at school, I.e the dad picks the DC up from school when it’s his weekend. Don’t think there is necessarily a right or wrong answer.

lanbro · 06/02/2018 17:06

It really depends how amicable you are...we just whatever suits us on a day to day basis

stressedoutfred · 06/02/2018 17:15

I was advised that it’s the non resident parents responsibility to pick up and drop home, it was my responsibility to make DS available for contact. This was a long time ago though so the thought has probably changed!

We share though as I think Ex would likely give up if he had to put more effort in. So for DS’s sake we pick him up. We’ve always done pick up as if we’d left it Ex he would have had him back at a ridiculous hour - no so bad now DS is a teenager but he thought nothing of a 10pm drop off on a Sunday eve for a 5 year old HmmConfused

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