I’ve been with my OH for just over 8 years. I love him an enormous amount and I can’t imagine my life without him but there are times when I feel unbelievably lonely and unwanted.
He’s kind and affectionate but we have no sex life which I’m fininding so hard, and ultimately makes me feel the way I do. There is 16 years between us and I’m only 30, so I appreciate that our sex drives are probably a little out of kilter but what can I do?
I’ve tried talking to him and he acknowledges how I feel but nothing has changed and I don’t want to force him to have sex with me. We even talked about separating but we both agreed that we didn’t want that as we do love each other....we’re in love with each other.
I recently got back in touch with an old flame, who I knew as a teenager, after bumping into him on a night out. The attraction between us is still there and he’s suggested starting an affair....and I can’t lie, I’m tempted. He is also in a long term relationship that he is otherwise happy in, so we’re both in agreement that this would be mutually beneficial, no strings attached sex.
I know that there will be a lot of you that don’t agree with affairs but I don’t know what else to do. Is this the beginning of of the end of my relationship or could this help get us back on track if I get what I’m craving from elsewhere?