DH refusing to talk about separation

[Wimbles101]

I’ve been really unhappy in our marriage for a long time and have stuck with it for our kids.

I really can’t do it anymore and want out. I’ve asked my other half to talk to me numerous times but he just walks away, ignores the problem. Hopes its will go away. It’s just his usual way of dealing with anything. How can I move this forward without it getting acrimonious? Please help...what do people do in this situation?

Instigate divorce proceedings. You don't have to go through the process if you're not ready but he

Arghh! Stupid phone.

He's showing clearly that he won't engage so I'd stop trying an

BLOODY PHONE!!!!

I'd just get on with it myself and hope that the divorce papers would shock him into action.

Same situation here. Says we can do a diy divorce but won't engage to start it. I've now been to see a solicitor. It's really helpful to get yourself 'educated' on the process so you can decide what you'd like to achieve from the divorce (consent order). Sounds like you need to drive it if he won't engage.

@Wimbles101 I totally understand where you are. Its awful - I've made the single most important/difficult/unpopular decision of my life and the husband is completely carrying on as if nothing has happened. I haven't got any advice sadly - I'm tearing myself apart here and its sh**.
I agree with @imagine123 though that getting yourself educated is a good place to start. Find a solicitor that will offer a free 30min consultation - or if you work it might be worth enquiring what free services your employer or union might offer?? Also consider counselling for yourself - not for the option of reconciliation - but to help you understand your own feelings. Wish you the best of luck.

Thanks all. This is all so helpful - I wanted to sit and talk like adults and it makes me sad that we can’t do that.

I guess I need to find a solicitor who offers free initial advice.

Thanks again.
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Tell him you want a divorce and start divorce proceedings via a solicitor.

I'm in exactly the same position as you. Almost word for word. So my husband doesn't want to acknowledge that we're at the end of our marriage, when it's more than obvious. I try and talk to him about it but he gets cross and sees me talking about divorce as a threat. Which makes it even more frustrating for me because he won't agree that something has to be done. I went for a free consultation back in November. I've got to say, I didn't find it very helpful. I didn't intend on telling him but I did end up doing so and it rocked the boat more than I thought. He saw I was serious. Since then, not much change and I still need some concrete legal advice on what I can and can't do. I've got an appointment with a divorce lawyer on the 13th feb. It's costing £300 and there is no time restriction on it so I'm hoping I'll get a clearer understanding of the process. He doesn't know of course. All I can say is hang in there and baby steps to make sure you're doing what you know is the right move for you xxxx