My Ex left me three years ago for someone at work. We are now divorced as of June this year.
I have a non molestation order which was granted for 18 months but which runs out in February and he has breached this many times and has criminally harrassed me and my new partner (accordng to the police) and I am considering criminal charges.
He has said now that he doesn't want to have any direct contact with me at all, (the order does not preclude civil communication, only abusive or harassing) and says that he will never be able to be civil to me etc. He believes that any direct communication from me is a form of provocation and he feels harrassed.
I am a reasonable person but I don't see how this can be workable without incurring the cost of a lawyer to communicate - it will cost both hundreds of pounds to arrange holidays, even communicate about kids parties etc, football matches, illnes etc. I rarely contact him and have only done so since Christmas.
The tone of my communication with him has (much to his annoyance) been calm and civil but his to me are exclusively abusive. There was a lot of abuse in the marriage and I guess I'm so inured it washes off now.
I am asking whether anybody knows of a third party impartial communicator or mediator that will deal with the simple stuff about whether the shin pads were left at his, or what to pack in the weekend bag or details of kid's parties.
Maybe there is an app or an organisation that deals with this? I've tried contact centres but they've said that there is no such service.
It is certainly not something I would like a friend to do as he is particularly coercive and tells so many lies that I have already lost mutual 'friends' who have stepped up to the job previously.
thanks x