Financial agreement-being fair

[Lostlily]

I am at the tail end of my divorce now.
However, due to commitments and dd being unwell we delayed selling the marital home until now. It is now on the market and ex and I have agreed the following:
Approx £180,000 total equity in house
Approx £30,000 mutual debt
Split £90k in my favour and £50k in his (both will be debt free and have a good car )
Married for 16 years, 14 yr old daughter to live with me, he was unfaithful, I was the higher earner
Is this fair, I bloody think so! My parents think I am mad as he is unlikely to be able to pay maintenance either but I don't see the point leaving him destitute as he has always worked and I want to be able to have a clean break....Thoughts??

My DP was the higher earner but he got 73% of the assets and pensions and she kept a house and business in France. Clean break. DPs ex messed about and lied for 3 yrs.

He should pay maintenance even if it’s £7pw from his benefits if he is unemployed.

Sounds incredibly sensible to me. I agreed a very similar settlement with my ex-DH. The best thing in these circumstances is to keep it amicable. If you're happy with the settlement and you're ability to provide for your daughter in the future then go ahead and put the court order forward. If the judge want honour it then that's the time to step back and look at alternatives. I understand why some people need to chase every last penny, but if that isn't the case for you, and you've reached an amicable settlement then stick with your plans. I did the same despite my ex waivering at one point under pressure from his mother. Thankfully he didn't give in to her pressure (her logic didn't stack up anyway). Best outcome possible for all concerned. Like everything, everyone has a different view and interpretation as to what is right. As long as you and your ex are in agreement then that's what should form the basis of the court order in the first instance.