Court access

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Hi I need some help and advice please.
My ex was horrible and controlling, nasty messages in windows about me.
Abusing me on social media, taking all doors off in my house, stopped me seeing friends and family.
Calling me all the horrible names you can think.
I’ve managed to get copies.
But I went to family court and agreed to access as never stopped it.
I agreed with it and still do.
But he said he would get his dad to collect our son not any family member.
It’s upsetting and not right, I never know who’s going to come to my door.
He’s continuing to call me names (awful) and threatening me.
He’s shouted on my sisters door step on drop off, his mum started on mine.
And my other two children are being hurt by this what do I do I’m at my ends and I can’t afford a solicitor.
I really need help please advise x

If an order was drawn up and he is not sticking to ie getting other people to collect your son when he agreed his dad, the you can take him back for breaching it. No need for a solicitor. But they might want to see that you have mentioned it to him ie numerous texts to say his dad must be the only person to collect as per the order otherwise that is breaching the order and you are in your right to ask for the order to be abide by.

He says he has had the court papers I’ve not received mine yet.
But it says in his so he says a family member shall collect, but he said dad I know he did I wouldn’t of agreed to this.
The lady at the start said everything was being voice recoded can I ask them tomorrow to listen to this.
I’m getting scared because it’s all the time, and the things he’s coming out with are crazy, don’t make sense and people are encouraging his behaviour.
I’ve not stopped him having are son he’s as much his as he is mine. I agreed to an over night stay and he’s living at home with parents with people I really don’t agree with but I know he will look after are son.
I think I’m more concerned about my ex and his mental state and his random family at my door.
The contact we have agreed on is not working.
We really need zero contact.
But how do I go about sorting things before I have no energy left.
I have to add my daughter is in and out of hospital a lot and this is affecting all
My kids and my own health :-(

It seems you need clearer understanding of what the court order states and you should have received this, when did you go court? Maybe he’s making up thatbhe has the court papers, can you ask via text (keep everything in writing for back up) for him to send you a photo of the order so you can see what the order states. And make it clear in the message that in court you agreed and made it clear it was his dad only. If you’re sure that was agreed then I wouldn’t let other family members collect the child because if he takes it back to court then they’ll say you let the child go a few times with other people so what’s the difference, and is it to just be awkward. So explain in message that you are happy, as per the court order, for him to have the child and for his father to collect, but as per what was arranged in court you would like this to be stuck to otherwise it’ll be breach of the order, or say until you receive the order under no circumstances will you allow anyone else to collect the child as that isn’t what has been agreed. The more you let other people collect the more it could go against you further down the line.