Just wanted to canvass opinions to check if I’m being unreasonable re ex’s access- would appreciate opinions.
Separated 2 years, 2 kids 5 and 10. Ex woRks shifts which change on a weekly basis. I work for myself from home and am happy to be flexible and arrange contact round his work. He frequently changes things, has to be chased for a contact schedule and is a terrible communicatior (which on one occasion resulted in the kids abandoned at school with Noone collecting them).
Things took a turn for the less amicable a few months ago (there were no arguments/incidents that I’m aware of that caused this). Ex said he wanted to go through CSA to calculate his maintenance rather than pay me the amount we agreed on. I paid the £20 fee and made a claim- he’s better off by the grand sum of £10 a month. Since then he’s asked for more overnights (prior to CSA involvement he was having them 7 nights a week), now he wants them 9-12 nights a month. I’m happy for him to see them as much as he can (up to 50:50 access). However, as he finishes work late, he can’t collect them on certain nights ‘til 7pm (or he could send his girlfriend to get them at 6pm). I’ve said no late pickups on school nights- youngest goes to bed at 7/7:30, it’s too disruptive and gives them no extra time with him as they’ll go straight to bed.
Am I being unreasonable? I’m trying so hard to be fair and calm in the face of his increasing hostility, I don’t know whether I’m coming or going anymore- would appreciate a fresh opinion.