Sorry about this post but just need to get some stuff off my chest.
Basically dh has got a rental place a few days ago and plan is to tell kids about our separation on 27th.
He has been at his new place for last couple of days and we agreed he would come back today and tomorrow and attempt a "normal" Christmas.
Yet he's arrived back today at 4.30 and is pretty much behaving as if nothing is going on, I understand the kids don't know but I don't know I just thought he would be on his best behaviour if you like.
We always watch Elf on Christmas Eve and have just done that with our youngest (age 11). Eldest stayed in his room (age 16) which is nothing unusual really. Yet dh turns up with a bottle and a half of wine and proceeds to sit there and drink it all as if he hasn't got a care in the world.
Meanwhile im sat trying to behave as if nothing is wrong but worrying about how I get through visiting the inlaws tomorrow and keeping up the pretence, and literally counting the hours until everything can be out in the open.
What makes me even more amazed is allegedly he drinks too much because he was unhappy in our marriage. So what's the excuse now ? I know it's Christmas Eve and I don't have a problem with a couple of drinks but he just seems to be acting how he always would (which allegedly was because he was so unhappy).
I guess it may change once the kids know, but I just expected something different and him to make more of an effort.
Rant over - not expecting any reply really and perhaps I'm being unreasonable. Im now hiding away in my bedroom with the iPad as kids are both in their rooms. Can't honestly see how I can go to the inlaws tomorrow (we're just visiting then coming back home for Christmas lunch)as keeping up this pretence is just so hard I literally feel sick.
Hope things are going better for everyone else !!