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Any professional mediators out there please?

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Onlymeeeeee · 19/12/2017 09:29

If you were conducting the 2nd session of 2 and one person at the session was taking notes, would you expect them both to rely on those notes as a record of what they agreed or would you list that in your letter?
My mediator refused to specify what had been agreed and refused to check my notes against hers, meaning that 2 weeks later when my ex said my notes were not what was agreed, I have no back up??
Considering we technically agreed all plans for the children up to end February, and he has now denied any of it was agreed , i feel a bit peeved by the mediator.
Obviously nothing like as much as I am peeved by the ex, but then if there's a disruptive option, he will take it.

Just to add, I have taken legal advice on the plans, they're not binding in any way, it was an informal agreement, but why spend 90 minutes then deny it happened?

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bastardkitty · 22/12/2017 07:51

I'm not a mediator. But this is the problem with mediation. Notes I received from mediation were very brief and sketchy. Literally everything that was agreed was ignored by ex. It was just an exercise to force me to spend £750 quid. You cannot hold anyone to anything that was agreed. Even if you had full and accurate notes from the mediator, it's not enforcable.

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