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Financial settlement rejected,what now?

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Hotheadwheresthecoldbath · 15/11/2017 00:09

So my soon to be ex and I finally,after being messed about by solicitors,got together and agreed financially what we wanted to happen.All the forms had been filled but we spoke to our solicitors about our solution.
We thought we were just waiting for the decree absolute.
Today had a letter from my solicitor saying the judge had rejected our financial agreement.We are both gutted.
We want to go 50:50 on the proceeds of the sale of the martial home and then he keeps all other capital offset against my NHS pension ,we both accept that whilst in cash value terms my pension looks good once we start dividing it(and that with loss adjusters involved and the NHS fees will cost about £4000 which I do not have),it's value benefit neither of us.
We are 57 so time is against us.Why if we are agreed that this is better for us and our daughter can we not do as we wish,our solicitors agree.
So what now,we have already spent enough on solicitors.Of all the things we cannot remain married for money was not one of them!
This has already dragged on for a year and a half and I thought the end was in sight,I could repay borrowed money that enabled us to leave and move forward.

OP posts:
PatheticNurse · 04/07/2018 14:54

Lot more stringent nowadays to ensure neither party is coming out with far less then what they should

Xenia · 04/07/2018 15:44

I suspect our solicitor drafted the order as they did (my husband got a lot but it says whoever the children live with supports them which might sound fair but the reality is and was he never chooses to have them)

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