Recent separation - help!

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My husband left on Mon 30th Oct
He’s been back to the property each day since taking away his belongings etc
The house is jointly owned and he still has a key
I know he is getting legal advice on Tuesday over the phone.
Today he’s been making threats to get custody of the children - suggesting he moves back into the marital home with them and I move out. This is partly because he is the breadwinner and I have been a sahm and I have no means to take over the mortgage.
There have been unreported incidents of domestic violence and marital rape which I haven’t reported but intend to disclose the the gp on Wednesday.
He must not get custody of the children for their own safety.
My teenagers would choose to live with him if asked for the ability to remain in the house and the better financial standard of living.
Any helpful advice appreciated.

Just wanted to say my dc spent most of there time initially with df (Disney father) until they realised they needed parenting. They live ft with me now and nc with him .
Keep a diary, suggest to your dc they do too.

@Justbookedasummmerholiday what would I need to write in the diary?

He may be able to stop you moving that far and I think it would be counter productive moving a 15 year old halfway through GCSE’s. Could you not suggest you stay put in the house until the children finish education then look to sell. My friend has a non mol order and this was agreed in court- she has to sell when sons 18.

I could certainly suggest staying put in the house til her education is finished at the current school. However I have no idea how it will be paid for. Even with a job I can’t afford the mortgage payment. I will be looking at basic wage. He won’t be able to pay it and afford somewhere to live himself.