Contact arrangements

[Janice1980]

Hello.
Newbie here.

I've recently separated from my husband and we are trying to arrange when he will see the children
We have up to now agreed in every other weekend fri-sun , tue evening dinner and the weekends they are not with their dad he will take ds football training on sat and sun

Problem is I currently work evenings sat and sun and I also have a new partner

So my problem is on the weekends I have the children I'll be leaving them to work ( I have teenagers who can look after the younger ones) and it also only leaves me fri every other week to see the new fella

Not sure what to suggest as friends are telling me not to let their dad have them every weekend as I'll only get the weekday boring times but I can't see another way

Thank you xx

He has them every weekend or every other weekend? You've said both.

What's your alternative suggestion when he has such limited contact in the week?

Don't see what wrong with every weekend.

I think that both parents should get the pleasure of weekends (although IME they can be more of a grind that weekdays). I also think that in an ideal world both separated parents should have some weekend time free from their children to develop relationships/maintain friendships.
So in situation I would suggest a pattern of:
One weekend your ex has the children fri-sun (or Monday morning).
The following weekend you have the children Friday night till Saturday afternoon when they go to your ex till Monday morning.
Definitely don't think that their teen siblings should be looking after them every weekend...

How about your ex have the kids every Saturday to Monday

And you having Friday nights until whatever time you start work

And then weekdays as you said...

That way you get them on the one night your off so can spend some proper time with them.

I also don't think it's fair to make your teens look after the younger ones.