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Divorce/separation

How soon?

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greenbubbles · 24/09/2017 07:45

Are there any benefits for divorcing sooner or waiting a bit?

My STBXH left a couple of months ago. We tried couples counselling but it didn't work out. Lots of lies came to the surface and it turns out he's been spending a lot of time on escort sites. I can't trust him anymore. I'm pregnant and feel like I'd like to get everything sorted before the baby arrives. We need a bigger house and I'm not sure if I will have the money to fund one.

I think he's a bit in denial and expects that I will have him back eventually.

Am I moving too quickly since he only left a few months ago? Are there pros/cons to waiting or waiting till after the baby arrives?

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MrsBertBibby · 24/09/2017 10:32

I generally advise against delay. I suggest you go see a solicitor now, talk the whole thing through, and then you can decide . It's unlikely you will get everything sorted before the birth though unless your finances are very simple.

Good luck.

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Winteriscomingneedmorewood · 24/09/2017 10:34

Wrap it up ASAP.
Then when the baby arrives you can focus on being a dm and not the ex. .

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