Should I start divorce or wait for him to do it?

[mrsplopper]

Hi wondering if I should start divorcing my husband, or just leave it for him to do?
Main reason is the cost, I don't have any money!
He left 4th July after my years of misery, final straw when I caught him on porn, hook up and 3 dating sites.
He's in the military, so has moved to accommodation provided at base.
He's paying me some child maintenance, which he has calculated and I have a part time job.
He's still paying the bills, doesn't want me to claim tax credits, as he says it'll be final then.
Although to be honest, I feel it's already final with the way he has treated me.
Is it in my best interest to start divorce?
I am wondering if he has seen a solicitor and been advised to carry on paying bills, I wonder if he's stitching me up?

let him do it, it costs £1000 otherwise. Who cares what the reason for the divorce is as long as you don't have to pay for it is my attitude. But do get your half hour free advice.
I let my husband divorce me and ignored the horrible divorce petition, it makes not one jot of difference to the outcome.

Thanks, I did wonder if It would do better for me with financial settlements if I wasn't my fault?

Also as I have a son who is nearly 13, my friend, who works at a solicitors said I'd be entitled to 80% of the house equity, which I do want, as the original deposit was from my house, when we met. He put nothing in.

I guess if we do it the 2 year seperation route, it could work out cheaper and less fighting - over the house, pension etc.
Although I don't think he'll give up any of his pension etc easily

I have never seen a divorce improved by waiting. Sort it out now.

Not to sure why you would get 80%. Just because you have the child it doesn't always mean you will get the larger share.

Claim benefits as he won't know unless you tell him