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I've had enough of dh. I don't know if I am overeacting or if it can be saved.
I'm sick of having to organise everything at home. We have dd together and he has a son with his ex. He lets his son do whatever he wants and I have to remind him of basic things eg his son needs to do homework, tidy up etc.
I have to organise eveything for ourr dd. Childcare, clothes, activities. Dh does nothing.
His one job is food shop.and he won't do that. Only one car and shops are 30 min walk away and dd 1 and in pram.
He won't organise time with his kids. Me and dh work around eachother so only have 1-2 days off a month of which I may be pre or post nights. I say I can have dd a couple of hours so he can do something with his 10 year old. He says it's my fault for not offering to have dd full day as he can't do anything with dss. I said he can use annual leave when dd in nursery or I'm off as 1-2 days off together we need time as a family/ I need a rest with nightshift.
He goes out with friends once a week. He never offers me any downtime from dd.
Hw won't apply for flexible working so we have to pay more in childcare. He has debt so he can't cover half the bills anyway and the extra childcare on top I have to pay. I'm happy miney being joint but he doesn't get thst it means 50/50 say not him doing what he wants.
He won't discipline his son or teach him responsibility. Anything we agree in dh ignores to do his own thing so I have to keep recompromising closer to what he wants and he still doesn't listen to my input at all. He doesnt get that it's 50/50.
He is so scared of his ex thst he lets her butt in and weaponise their son. I told her it isn't on and had abuse via text and solicitor. He said she isn't thst bad for it.
He lies about small things. Any I ask for or reminders to get things and I ask did he manage to he lies about. Why can't he just say he forgot?
He expects me to do noring responsible things for both kids. There is no consequence for his son being naughty/ not chipping in eg his son knows pocketmoney is on condition of tidying.up aftet himself. He won't and dh says its his fault not his son. So I say thst means no pocketmoney as we agreed and dh says none ofr dd either to make it fair as she doesn't tidy. She is 1!
I don't know if I'm overreacting about small things but there's so many it interferes with our day to day living and he doesn't want to compromise or meet me halfway. This has been going on for months and we talked so many times. He only cuddles me when he wants sex. He puts his son before our daughter and wants me to treat them equally which I do. But he wants only fun stuff. So dss and dd get nice things feom me but only boring with dd.
II feel like life would be easier sometimes but don't know if
A. I'm overreacting or
B. Even if I'm not is it worth repairing?