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He's taken the marital car & im STUCK! Help???

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HR0L · 12/09/2017 20:03

Marriage has been awful for about a year - if not longer. I've come to realise that he's controlling, is impossible to talk to and anything serious or even funny! The communication is completely gone. He's been diagnosed with a heart condition recently that has spun him into some boring, old, miserable, self pitying, aggressive arse. It's not life threatening; the doctors have told him! We have two children aged 2 & 4.

So the pig has left me know saying he's rather be alone than with me. Ok! Not a problem, your doing me a favour.

But ... he's taken the 1 car we have. It's in his name.
He works in town where we live and has a work truck. I work out of town and my children attend nursery and NEW school out of town. It has always been my responsibility to fetch & carry them and have been the main user of the car since it was purchased. The stupid idiot has taken it and won't let me have it. I've been scrounging lifts to work and getting the kids to school this week (eldest kids 1st day at school on Monday) and about 15 mins before we were due to leave, he walked down the drive, got in the car and drove off. I've not seen it since.

It's so embarrassing asking people for lifts! TBH I cannot afford to buy a new one now I'm taking on the house myself. I've no savings.

Can he do this? How can I get it back? What oh god... can I do????

I just can't cope with this! Trying to be strong for my babies but I'm not sure I can hold out for much longer!

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HR0L · 13/09/2017 20:44

Agreed - I'm going to let him stew for a bit. They're not asking after him AT ALL ... so they're happy. That's good for me. If they were worried I'd take action

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HR0L · 14/09/2017 12:34

He's now demanding he picks the children up from school today. I explained in a reasonable way why I think it's best not... not so sure he's going to listen and rock up at school anyway 😭 I've asked him to have them on Saturday so it's not like I've not given something

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NotSureIfiAmWell · 14/09/2017 12:45

STBXH left 3 months ago. I straight away did all you hv been advised with benefits etc. I also commensed contact immediately - you will need the alone time to sort stuff. Alternate weekends and once during the week for him. I hv kept everything via messenger. So verbal communication as l want evidence of everything

NotSureIfiAmWell · 14/09/2017 12:47

Hv u got joint bank accounts?

HR0L · 14/09/2017 13:02

We don't have a joint bank account no.

I'll keep the conversations we have on record via what's app. He's been really aggressive 1 day in to trying to arrange things. What a start!

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Emily0007 · 18/09/2017 07:30

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