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Letting off steam !

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thenewstateswoman · 11/09/2017 18:59

It's been ten days or So since my husband informed me he didn't want to continue our marriage and moved into the spare room. We had just finished renovating a house which was to be our forever home and accumulated a bit of debt in doing so. He was pushing to add this to our mortgage and I went along with it. Until today when I suddenly thought no I don't think this is a good idea and called the mortgage company and put it all on hold. I then can't contacted my husband to say we need to talk about this as our circumstances have changed. He called me about twenty times in the space of thirty minutes and when I did pick up a call he was virtually bullying me into taking this loan on. It's total nonsense to me to do this if he wants to split. Why would I convert unsecured debt into secured debt. I'm on my way home now and I'm worried about what I might be walking into. He was so nasty on the phone. Really awful. Any advice?

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Rainybo · 11/09/2017 19:04

You're right not to make any major financial decisions at this time. His reaction would make me think he is now out for himself and thinks he will gain something from moving the debt in this way.

If you're splitting up, then your financial decisions are your own now. Get some legal advice.

And tell him to fuck off. These are the consequences of his decision, controlling fucker.

thenewstateswoman · 11/09/2017 19:10

Yes I'm seeing a solicitor on Wednesday (my day off from work) - lots of comments like I can see what you are doing etc etc -we have a three year old daughter who is my priority. I spent lunchtime looking at tax credits/child benefit and child maintenance details. No way I'm taking on his debts. I can pay mine off. He should do the same.

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Rainybo · 11/09/2017 19:15

Good for you - sounds like you have your head screwed on!

Be prepared for the 'I thought we were going to be amicable' line whenever you disagree with him.

And he can see what you're doing! So what, he made the decision, what does he expect you to do?

thenewstateswoman · 11/09/2017 19:18

Yes I'm already getting those. It's fucking loopy to add almost 60k to a mortgage when we are splitting

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thenewstateswoman · 11/09/2017 19:21

This shite attitude to money on his side is rubbish. I live within my means and also put duel the entire deposit and at least 40k towards stamp duty renovation etc - fucking tosser. His sole contribution was taking out a 15k loan.

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thenewstateswoman · 11/09/2017 19:23

He's picking up our daughter tonight so I stopped for an emergency tequila on the way home and let the steam come out of my ears. I'm now serene as fuck.

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thenewstateswoman · 11/09/2017 19:24

It's better I get it out here than at home ...

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