Financial settlement

[OffThePeg]

My ex has sneakily filed for a decree a split before we have the financial settlement. I'm worried about our three kids and the house - I have a low paid part-time job and can't pay for a lawyer. Is there anything I can do?

Decree absolute! Not decree a split!

Is he the petitioner or the respondent?

Speak to your solicitor my understanding is they rarely agree it without everything being sorted

He had an affair so is he respondent. But he files the request to the chart in the summer without telling me. Found out through being given a court date.

To the court. Sorry am juggling small children and iPhone

I believe judges are unlikely to grant the absolute unless settlement is in place.

My understanding is that the absolute ends the marriage but it's only the consent order that draws a line under financial claims.

What is happening with the settlement? Mediation or are you using solicitors.

Please see a solicitor as they can take their fees from the final settlement so don't be put off as you need good advice.

I am going through financial resolution now. My absolute was granted over a year ago.

Sorry to hear that Crispbutty. I will call a lawyer tomorrow. I have a few names. We had mediation but he never offers anything and I just felt I was being bullied into agreeing a settlement. But he must have filed all this while we were in mediation.

No mediation for me as my ex has a lifetime restraining order. And is hellbent on not giving me a penny , blatantly lying to the courts, and dragging it out. Costing thousands.