Living with an ex

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Does anyone else have to live with their ex? I split with my OH a few weeks ago after 5 years together. Even though it was my choice (long long story) I am reeling and things are still very raw. Actually I am devastated. It was an extremely hard decision to end things. Unfortunately neither of us can afford to move out. He was made bankrupt last week and I only work part time and can't afford to rent. I'm looking for a full time job but as my son will be 18 in 2 months time I'm not entitled to any help. It looks like I will have to stay here for the next 6 months at least! How on earth am I going to cope?

You say that your husband has been made bankrupt. If you own your home jointly this can be sold to recover his debts. Are you aware of this?

We are in a rented house not owned. His ex lives in the house he owns and yes they are making them sell it.

How will you cope? You get your head down and plough on OP. It's bloody hard but there is light at the end of the tunnel, so I'm told. I'm 2 and a half years into living with mine after separation and I still have hope.

Oh my giddy aunt!!! 2 and a half years!! I'm going stir crazy and it's only been 3 weeks! Do you have any tips? Do you cook for him? Do you share the cleaning? I'm not sure what I'm supposed to be doing!

If you're separated then you shouldn't be doing anything! We have separate bedrooms (obviously), washing baskets, shelves in the fridge, shop separately for food. Nothing is done together. I tackle it like we don't live together and I live my own life already. It's hell on earth at times but I have to look to the future otherwise I'd go crazy. I'm thinking of you OP, I hope your situation is sorted a lot quicker than mine

Thank you. And I hope your situation is sorted soon too. I've started applying for full time jobs. Hopefully it won't take me too long to get one. At least then I can hopefully get a mortgage. I am 51 so my options are limited. 15 year mortgage max. I really feel for you. Bless your heart ❤️